We have little discipline in our lives because we are allowing our ID to rule our lives instead of our Ego.
When we think about the idea and practice of instant gratification, at some point we may need to focus on the why behind our desperation to fill our needs…quick and in a hurry! What need or empty space are we truly looking to fill? Is the ID the equivalent to psychological soul food? Is it there to bring some sort of comfort for needs that are being unmet elsewhere in our lives?
I am noticing that our need for instant gratification is getting completely out of hand and today’s society and the alluring and hypnotic power of social media is only adding fuel to the psychological fire. Watch the video above or read below.
It has been a minute, but I am sending out positivity and love.
Today we are talking about the ID, Superego, and the Ego. The ID is like a child, usually the ID is the part of us that says, I want this, or I want that and a lot of times, we allow it to rule over our Ego and Superego. The Superego acts like a parent or a super vision or even similar to the “angel” on our shoulder. So the Superego basically want to check ID by letting ID know that it should not go about doing things the way that it does, that ID should find the most righteous way to do things and then you have the Ego, which is the mediator between the two. All too often, ID impatiently expresses its desire to have things now…I want this, and I want that, while the Superego is looking for the most righteous way to go about fulfilling those desires and the Ego regulates the two. The Ego is the one that is going to provide that compromise between the two, essentially acting as the “voice of reason.”
There are times in our lives where we have these occurrences, here is a scenario. The ID decides that it wants some candy (this is hypothetical) but it wants candy and it does not care how it gets it, but ID wants some candy and ID wants it right now…even if I have to steal it! ID represents instant gratification which is something that we have become so use to. Now, the Superego is going to do what it can to reason with ID, encouraging ID to find a better way. The Ego, shows up and says, okay ID you want some candy and you want it right now, and Superego, you already know that you should not be stealing…so how can we get the candy right now? Well if you want the candy right now you will have to buy it…problem solved.
The one thing that I have noticed in our lives is that most of us are feeding our ID way too much. Our need for instant gratification is taking over. It happens because we do not even realize that we are acting in this way. I recently had to do some self-reflecting of my own because I was having an issue here and realized that we really allow our feelings for instant gratification to take complete control. When you get into the habit of constantly feeding your ID, it leaves little room for the Superego to intercede which in turn leaves no room for the Ego to mediate. It is not good for us to give in to ID that much.
Society helps us on a daily basis to feed ID and I think that there actually may be an agenda there. For instance, when we want food, more than likely if we want food, we are not interested in baking or cooking, things that take too much time because we want food and we want it now. So we go and decide that we want to order our food or put something in the microwave…that is instant gratification at play, and we are feeding our ID. The thing is that we do not realize that we are feeding it because these are not necessarily negative ways of feeding the ID, but it will begin to reflect negatively in your life.
Another example can be found in online shopping. We can go crazy on Amazon, if I want to purchase scarves then I can do that and then I can select shipping options…same day, 2 days, so we are feeding our need for instant gratification, we want things and we want them right now. Take Instagram, if a person wants some attention right then and there, they can post something and get those instant likes or there will be people who will jump in the DM. Society has taught us how to feed that ID inside of us. When it comes to real life situations, we have definitely been feeding ID which is not good because the child like need to have something immediately becomes the thing that you focus on the most.
I think that the most relatable thing that I can say right now is if we think about how prominent sex is. With sex, people will feel like they want it and they want it right now. Superego comes along and understands that you want sex but believes that you should not go about getting it just any old way. But because we have become so accustom to feeding ID, even though the Superego comes into the mind, they will have a tendency to blow it off, deciding to do what it wants to do anyway. You have fed the ID so much that the Superego has little room to intercede and the Ego has no room to mediate. I will use the example of a relationship. I may want a relationship right now, which is my ID talking and my Superego will say, well you do not need to be in a relationship right now. You need to wait, and you need to work on yourself. The Ego, always looking for compromise tries to figure out how we can balance things out. I want a relationship and I want it right now; I will let anyone jump into the DM’s. Superego is like…nah sis, you need to hold off…Ego wants to find a compromise. What if we go out on dates, we do not need to be in a relationship, but we can just go out on dates or we can go out with our friends and just see what happens. Do not expect a relationship, do not look for anything.
So for me because I am on this new spiritual journey, a lot of things that once served me no longer do. Me wanting a relationship will pop up in my head but it is not something that I feel like I have to answer to or that I have to take action to get one. So at this point my minds feel like it is suppressing something because I am thinking about a relationship but my mind is saying that I do not need to pay attention to that at this time and the truth is, it is not that I am suppressing it, it just does not serve me anymore. So, because my mind is convinced that I am suppressing something, then ID jumps up and says, well then if we cannot have a relationship, then what can we have? Because remember that ID is like a child inside of you and it wants what it wants. It is similar to how a kid will ask for ice cream, but they are told no and so then they will ask for fries because it wants to negotiate so that it can have something.
So, since I am not going to have a relationship right now then the instant thing that I came up with is junk food because it is more permissible than having a relationship. So, we can go ahead, and we eat a little bit of junk food but then that need would last for 5 or 6 days! The next thing you know I was eating straight junk and finally I have to question, what was going on? My ID was basically being starved and all it wants to know is what can we have if we cannot have a relationship? ID feels like since you have been depriving it for this long then I am going to keep eating this junk food.
So, we need to be super mindful of that because like I said, in today’s time we are feeding that ID so much and we do not even realize it…microwaving food, Instagram likes to seek attention, same day shipping on Amazon all examples of instant gratification. We do not look at it in a negative light, but it is still feeding our ID. I had to back up and realize that I was feeding my ID a little too much and it does not matter how you feed it…whether it is good or bad, still once you start feeding that ID, it will rule over your Superego and your Ego. Once it takes over those two, then that is when you begin to have no discipline. A lot of us today, do not have any discipline. In all actuality, the Ego should rule over all of them because it will control the ID and the Superego.
We need to have balance because now that I am eating all of this junk food, which my body is rejecting because it is not used to junk food, it is throwing off my third eye. Most of us should know that when you eat a lot of junk food it lowers vibration. The spiritual journey that I was once on is not where it was because I was giving way too much attention to my ID which was starved for so long. It is ok to eat junk food 1 or 2 days out of the week, but you must have a balance. We have to make sure that we are pleasing both the ID and the Superego, which is where the Ego comes into play, we need for Ego to rule so that we can maintain discipline within ourselves and in our world. Thanks for listening and I love you all.