Healthy Love Versus Unhealthy Love: All Relationships A’int Good

We all heard the phrase, “All relationships a’int good,” which is why the ones that are good eventually end, but just because a relationship ends doesn’t always mean it was bad. It just means that the two people just weren’t meant to last forever and that they needed a healthier relationship. So, how can you tell if the love that you’re receiving is healthy or not? Below we listed how to differ the two.

Healthy Love:

1. Allows for individuality
2. Brings out partners’ best qualities
3. Accepts endings
4. Experiences openness to change
5. Invites growth in the partner
6. Experienced true intimacy
7. Finds pleasure in going and receiving
8. Does not try to change partner
9. Accepts limitations of self and partner
10. Does not seek unconditional love
11. Has individual high self-esteem
12. Trusts the memory of the partner
13. Expresses feelings spontaneously
14. Welcomes affection and closeness
15. Believes in equality

Unhealthy Love: 

1. Feelings consumed in the relationship
2. Extremely afraid to let go
3. Excessive fear of risk or change
4. Little individual growth
5. Few try intimate experiences
6. Playing mind games
7. Trying to get something by giving
8. Trying to change people
9. Needing others to feel secure and happy
10. Refusing to commit
11. Repeatedly experience of negative feelings
12. Being afraid of affection and closeness
13. Cares with excessive detachment
14. Frequent playing of “power games“
15. Looking to others for self-worth

“Soulmates are people who bring out the best in you. They are not perfect but they are always perfect for you.” -Unknown