The Core Elements that are Critical in Every Relationship

Starting in November, as you scroll through social media you start seeing people taking applications for a girlfriend/boyfriend or they start talking about cuddle season. Now while all this is cute, it’s not sustainable. Why get someone for a season when you’re just going to have to do the whole thing all over again next year? There are core elements that you need in order for a relationship to sustain and trust, you’re not finding them in any cuddle buddy for a season because you’re trying to rush to fulfill a temporary need.

When it comes to the core elements that are needed, there are four and you need to have a strong foundation of each in place. The reason for all break ups and divorces is because there are elements missing, even if just one is missing, your relationship will still be doomed and will fail in the long run without that element.

1. Emotional Connection.

When it comes to both parties able to be completely vulnerable with each other, it is because the emotional connection is strong and stable. Trust is enabled first and as that trust for one another gets stronger, then you naturally just feel vulnerable around each other. It’s not a forced thing. It’s something that happens naturally and without force. You feel safe and secure with this person to where you know that your deepest and most secrete thoughts are safe with them. They don’t make you feel guilty or judged. And when they offer their advice, it is coming from a genuine place.

2. Spiritual Connection.

You know that feeling when you can just gaze in a person’s eyes or touch a person’s hand and it’s like you already know each other’s deepest desires and needs? This that intense spiritual bond. That’s the soulmate connection. When I tell you that the eye gaze can explain things without the lips having to do any talking and then when you both smile at each other after, it’s like confirmation that you both felt/feel what is happening.

3. Mental Connection.

When you understand your person like no one else does and vice versa, this is that mental connection. It’s one thing to communicate something, but when you understand someone, it takes things to a whole another level. Many couples communicate and can communicate very with each other, but to really understand someone is something different. You hear so many who will give advice and say, “Compromise”. However, when you compromise, you aren’t necessarily understanding the other person’s viewpoint or stance; instead, you’re just trying to end the conversation so you vow to just “agree to disagree” without any real concern of understanding for each other.

4. Physical Connection.

Lastly, physical connection. This is last because while it is important, it cannot stand on it’s own. Many will only have this within their connection and then later down the line after a year or years of being together, they realize that they never really had a REAL connection with each other. Yes, you want to feel and be attracted physically to your person, but just ensure that he or she checks off the core element boxes as well.

Bottomline, these 4 couple elements are either initially there or they aren’t. This isn’t something that can be built on over time or forced. Now over time, you’re bond can strengthen with someone, but it strengthen when something is already there to begin with. If you do not have an emotional connection with someone naturally, as time goes on, it will not strengthen because there is nothing there for it grow from. Nothing can grow without seeds.